Organise your wedding well
Wish to take charge of your wedding planning the right way and steer clear from donning the bridezilla cap? Here are some ways to help you stay organised while engineering your wedding
He gets down on one knee and pops the question. You say ‘Yes’ and in that one moment, from that day forward, your life takes a whole new turn. While getting married is supposed to make you feel like a princess, the planning and putting together of it all can definitely rain on your parade. So fret not, here are some tried and tested tips that will keep you in check and help you stay organised if you plan a year in advance.
THE FIRST LEG
First three months of your wedding planning
This is the kick-off stage—one where you’re still basking in the felicities of being engaged. The wedding glow has just started to flush your face, but steer clear of either schlepping along with the planning process or getting too caught up in the thrill of it all. The first three months are when most of the foreseeing and slotting of work is done. Wedding planner Jean Pereira Lambay speaks from personal experience:
- Sit your better half down and discuss your ideal wedding (theme, music, food, wedding ceremony/ceremonies) to make sure you’re on the same page
- Draw up a budget
- Pick your wedding date
- Book your venue (keeping in mind the weather, location, travel time taken, and season or off-season rates if it’s a destination wedding)
- Look up and book potential wedding planners (or willing cousins or friends who are ready to take up the task!), photographers, hair and makeup artists, florists, caterers, decorators, performers, DJs, wedding invitations and the cake
- Reserve you marriage officiant and if you’re getting married in a church, fill in your application form for the pre-marriage course
THE SECOND LEG
Following six months
ONCE you have chalked out the basics, the second leg (read: the following six months) is where you build off from the work you’ve done in the first leg. Jean suggests the following be taken care of in this phase:
- Start planning your guest list and send save the date invites
- Have your wedding card designed, printed and mailed out to all your guests
- If you weren’t exercising until now, then it’s time to get some workout into your routine. Also, visit a dentist and a skin specialist
- If it’s peak wedding season that you’ll be getting married in, decide on your honeymoon destination and get your tickets and visas going pronto! The quicker you are, the cheaper your tickets and hotel stay will be
- It’s a cool trend to have your own wedding website. There are many websites online offering ready templates where you just have to fill in your details, upload pictures and Voila! You could also add information about upcoming events, password-protect it and share that with your guests so your wedding website remains private and confidential! And with online registry, it’s just easier for your guests to pick up gifts that you would really want
- Start planning your trousseau and wedding outfits with accessories. Look for designer stores or stores that have similar designs, shortlist your options and shop
- Book your wedding night suite
- Order your wedding rings
- Apart from looking into the nitty-gritty of wedding planning, now is when you can indulge in some pre-wedding decadence with your friends and plan your hen night
- Book hotel rooms for out-of-town guests
- Organise all legalities— court registration, etc.
THE LAST STRETCH
A month before the wedding
You’re nine months into putting your dream wedding together; this last stretch is the last 30 days that can either seem like a drag or breeze by before you know it. If you’ve started your planning well in advance and haven’t tried to cram everything for the latter months, then this is the period, according to Jean, where you should delegate any remaining or incomplete tasks to friends and family. Remember to meet all confirmed vendors and run through every single detail of their scope of work for the wedding including their ready time for the day.
- Have a word with your photographer and videographer in case you want to communicate your wishes with regards to the photography
- Place the order for your wedding cake around the beginning of this phase
- Don’t forget to have a few makeup and hair trial sessions until you are completely satisfied with your looks for each function
- You can visit the salon for all your beauty treatments at least seven to 10 days prior to the start of the celebrations so your skin has time to recover
- Make sure to pack your wedding night kit and honeymooning luggage if you are heading for a romantic getaway right after the wedding
- A complete dress rehearsal for all the functions is must, so that you have enough time to fix any issue with fittings, etc.
A day before the D-Day
YOU’VE made through the year and now, you’re just a day away from the finish line. The last 24 hours are a mix of anxiety and excitement, but there’s still one important thing to focus on— you! “With all that you’ve been through in the last few months, you deserve to indulge yourself with a minimum four-hour spa treatment. It’s pure heaven! Breathe, relax and enjoy your last single day with your close friends and family,” says Jean.
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