Though planning a wedding is one of the most thrilling experiences of one’s life, it can easily become one of the most stressful moments. To weather through the inevitable challenges and anxiety, arm yourself with information and knowledge to prepare for whatever lies ahead
The Lifestyle Dodgeball
Often, brides are so caught up in the preparations that they tend to develop dark circles, acne, pigmentation, hair fall and unwanted hair growth. Besides these appearance-related concerns, there are health issues that must be addressed. Dr Sonia Tekchandani, consulting dermatologist, The Wedding Clinic in Pune, advises, “Brides usually focus on weight as an aspect of being healthy and tend to ignore underlying health concerns. Take for instance, medical conditions like Polycystic Ovary Syndrome/Polycystic Ovarian Disease (PCOS/PCOD), which is a hormonal disorder common among many women. It is advisable that brides undergo a medical check-up and start treatment five to six months before the wedding, so that all concerns can be treated for not only good health, but also a natural glow. “Knowing well that brides have a lot on their minds and that it can be difficult to spot symptoms, Tekchandani lists the red flags, “In PCOS/PCOD, irregular periods, recurring lower face acne, unusual weight gain, hair fall, and thick hair growth on upper lip and chin are some of the common symptoms. Regular exercise, weight control and proper diet are important to tackle it.”
Manage Wedding Planning Anxiety
Wedding planners Divya Chauhan and Vithika Agarwal of Divya Vithika Wedding Planners state, “Wedding planning can take its toll on couples—financially, emotionally as expectations ride high, and mentally with couples adjusting to sharing a home and moving into a new environment. So, it’s important to be open and communicative with each other and spend time with family and friends. Share your anxieties and concerns with them. Occasionally, do something romantic together and spend this time charting your future. This will help you both focus in the same direction and serve as a constant reminder of why you want to share your lives with each other.” Misunderstandings and arguments are bound to occur among families and couples, but take it in your stride. Dr Jaishree Sharad, cosmetic dermatologist and CEO of Skinfiniti Aesthetic Skin & Laser Clinic, Mumbai, says, “To date someone is one thing; to get married and live with them is another. It is a lifelong commitment. ‘Am I doing the right thing’ is one of the questions that most couples tend to ask themselves. Self-doubt and wedding-planning anxiety can weigh down many a couple. First of all, couples need to organise and plan well. Once you’ve sorted your wedding planning, focus on diet, sleep and exercise. Fill up on greens, fruits, salads, sprouts, soups and fresh juices. Stay away from sugar, processed food, fried food and junk food. Avoid caffeine and aerated drinks at least a month before your wedding. This alone will leave you feeling energetic and fresh. Even if you sleep for five to six hours, try to sleep peacefully. Exercise for at least 30 minutes daily. It is not only a stress buster, but also will help you stay fit. Avoid smoking, alcohol intake and late nights.
Nourish Yourself Right
You’ve been working out and eating healthy, yet the scales aren’t tilting to the left? Well, it is time to reconsider your dietary habits. Most brides take to the latest fads to get into shape in as little time as possible for their big day. But before initiating any change, one must understand how it will help one achieve their fitness goals. Nutritionist Karishma Chawla of Eat Rite 24×7 says: “Not every healthy sounding diet might be right for you! A healthy nutritional plan encompasses nutrients in adequate proportions to meet an individual’s Basal Metabolic Rate (BMR) keeping in mind lifestyle, workout regimen and medical conditions, if any. There is no single diet that fits all, as each body is unique and has specific demands. Hence, a tailor-made plan is necessary.”
Plan, Organise, Delegate
Your wedding checklists are unique to your needs. While there are many templates that one can find online, Chauhan and Agarwal say, “Our advice is to acquire one or two checklists. Following that, calmly run through the events in your mind and tweak the original lists accordingly. To delegate, identify family and friends, who are responsible, knowledgeable and adept at certain things. Usually, dads and uncles are assigned the task of managing caterers, while mothers and aunts take on the responsibilities related to rituals and ceremonies. Siblings and cousins enjoy organising the sangeet and cocktail parties.”
Take A Break
Whether you’re planning a wedding that is a month or a year away, at some point, the planning process will get to you. This is when you should step back and take a break, suggest experts. Travel with your partner for a short weekend getaway—a change of scenery will do wonders. Once every week or so, invite your friends over and watch your favourite sitcoms. The aim is to find a way to relax and unwind from the demands and pressures of planning a wedding.
Wedding Planner: Yay Or Nay
Every soon-to-wed has to contend with this decision— whether to hire a wedding planner or do it all by yourself? Many are divided on this subject, especially for Indian weddings, where families tend to delegate responsibilities among its members. However, there are many who prefer to hire a planner. Wedding stylist Nisha Kundnani, Founder and Creative Director of Bridelan, shares: “This applies to couples who want an intimate wedding and perhaps, pay for most of it themselves. They are well-travelled, well-heeled and understand the benefits of enlisting a professional. A wedding is the most personal project of an individual’s life, but it is not solitary, it involves interactions with people who mean a lot to you. You want them to be cared for and [for yourself] you want to enjoy the wedding without having to worry about the details. While some small weddings can be easily managed with the help of family members and close friends, the couple must approve every detail, which is a lot of work. The quantum of work cannot be managed by two people and their families alone. The job should be delegated to those who are experts at handling the task.” While Kundnani believes that hiring a planner is the best decision, she also thinks it is possible to work with your own vision, “Get a personal assistant or a manager for daily checks; someone who’s efficient in following-up, coordinating and getting things done. Set reminders to ensure deadlines are met. Start planning as early as a year prior to the wedding and close all decisions two months before the wedding; it helps you visualise the days leading up to the wedding.”
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