Bidding adieu to the bachelor pad
The life of a bachelor is very different from that of a family man. And so is his home. FWT takes a sneak peek into how love can convert his pad into a home for two
A bachelor pad conjures up various images in our minds. Generally, when you think of a bachelor pad, what comes to mind is an unkempt room, single bed, clothes strewn around, unwashed dishes, small wardrobe, huge posters on the walls and all that look chaotic to anybody who steps in this space, except the owner! For the owner, it is his den he loves to inhabit without anybody’s interference. But as they say, change is the only constant; there comes a time in life when a bachelor has to let go off his den. This is the time when the king of the house decides to bring a queen into his life. The big question then is: how does one convert a bachelor pad into a home for two?
The big shift
There are certain must-haves for a good bachelor pad. The interiors give out a strong masculine vibe. It is a man’s spot away from the rest of the world, where the only rules that matter are his. But this is what a man must sacrifice for his love and family. “Converting this haven hideout into a home is both, mentally and physically challenging. This encroachment of one’s freedom by a second party is something that all bachelors go through. Marriage brings along intrusion into one’s privacy. The space has to be modified to accommodate the girl’s belongings. This may be easier said than done. After having planned a room according to your own taste, you’re forced to listen to the opinion of your partner’s,” says Manu Goel, senior architect, The Novarch Architects.
Compromise and understanding are the names of the game. Invariably, a tidy person lands up with a messy partner or vice versa! For someone who is messy and has an unkempt room, tidiness can mean a big compromise. The previously spacious room also becomes smaller, larger cupboards replace the smaller ones, and other ‘essential items’ take up space.
Making it a home
When two people live together and share their lives together, the house or the bachelor’s pad instantly becomes a home. “Make a special effort to decorate your house with items that make for beautiful memories, something special to both. Similarly, before marriage, you can work, study and sleep in one room, but after marriage, it is essential to carve out a private space for yourself and have a different room to use as workplace,” stresses Honey Jolly, Design Head, Home Ettu. Space management is another big task that the couple needs to take care of. “After marriage, the space used by one person is shared by two; sometimes, the same place will not be appropriate after marriage. Placing furniture properly and storing unnecessary things help a lot. Essentials that need to be kept in mind while creating a space are a comfortable-sized bed, wardrobe space, dresser area and a bathroom,” adds Honey.
Similarly, colours need to change. While some prefer bright colours, others may prefer lighter shades. So, considering your partner’s choice of colour is important. Choosing neutral colours can also help. If your fiancé likes a bright shade like orchid, you can always create equilibrium by going monochromatic with a neutral hue like cream and a pop of colour with orchid as an accent. This helps in adding some drama to an otherwise subtle setting. The bottom line is: respect each other’s likes and dislikes. “Respect and understanding are the strengths of any relationship, so taking each other’s choices and likes into consideration make relationships even stronger,” stresses Manu.
Loss or gain?
With two people living under the same roof, compromise works, with the partners respecting each other’s viewpoints. “The change of furniture or items within the room/house is just a reflection of the change in your lifestyle and thinking. Free, independent thought is replaced by caution and responsibility. Commitment to a family is a big responsibility that is reflected in the willingness to let go of a few things. It is giving up personal interests for the broader interests of a family. Life is about evolving from a single, selfish individual to a caring, responsible family man, and this is reflected in the change of a bachelor pad into a family home,” states Asit Karekar, architect and owner of AUK Design Studio.
- Planning the space is the first step in converting a bachelor pad into a home. Both partners’ ideas must be considered before renovating the place. Post marriage, space used by one person is shared by two; sometimes, the same space may not be appropriate after marriage. Placing important furniture properly helps
- Respect and understanding are the strengths of any relationship, so taking each other’s choices and likes into consideration make the relationship even stronger
- Buy furniture that is properly upholstered and is comfortable for both. Soft furnishings also help make your abode look like a love nest
- Maximise the means; once you have decided on the furniture, sell off the unwanted things to make a little extra cash and at the same time, maximising space
- Have a proper storage unit. With two people coming together, you are on your way to having a family of your own in the years to come. So, planning ahead and creating space for family is also crucial right from the beginning